{"id":37467,"date":"2023-11-29T15:03:37","date_gmt":"2023-11-29T15:03:37","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/isafespend.com\/personal-finance\/savings\/dave-says-be-gentle-hes-moving-in-the-right-direction\/"},"modified":"2023-11-29T15:03:38","modified_gmt":"2023-11-29T15:03:38","slug":"dave-says-be-gentle-hes-moving-in-the-right-direction","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/isafespend.com\/?p=37467","title":{"rendered":"Dave Says: Be Gentle, He\u2019s Moving in the Right Direction"},"content":{"rendered":"<p data-dcy-id=\"0.5317993033762507\">\n<p data-dcy-id=\"0.5317993033762507\"><strong>Dear Dave,\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p data-dcy-id=\"0.48967235976552725\"><strong>We\u2019re following your Baby Steps plan, and we\u2019ve paid off all our credit cards. But when I talked to my husband the other day about cutting up the cards and closing the accounts, he said he would rather keep the accounts open, and the cards locked away in a drawer for use as an emergency fund. He says this will help us have an emergency fund in place quicker than saving for one. I think there\u2019s more behind his reasoning, though. He grew up in a very poor family, and I wonder if he\u2019s not afraid of somehow ending up in that kind of situation again. What can I do to convince him to follow your advice?\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p data-dcy-id=\"0.8092278136534887\"><strong>Ramona\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p data-dcy-id=\"0.8808220440772436\"><span data-dcy-id=\"0.008372361766660008\">Dear Ramona,\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-dcy-id=\"0.9227798966520651\"><span data-dcy-id=\"0.012617353710277612\">I think you\u2019re a very perceptive lady. You said your husband grew up in poverty, right? So, what I\u2019m hearing is the cards represent almost a security blanket for him\u2014a financial security blanket. I get that, but here\u2019s the thing. If you had a fully funded\u00a0<\/span>emergency fund<span data-dcy-id=\"0.04454992916408962\">\u00a0of three to six months of expenses sitting in the bank, I\u2019m talking about hard cold cash, you\u2019d have the security of knowing that the expense of a new air conditioning unit or transmission for the car would only be a minor inconvenience. And, you\u2019d be able to cover it easily without going back into debt.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p data-dcy-id=\"0.7376881598193519\"><span data-dcy-id=\"0.25443615476414805\">Instead of actively trying to convince him of something, a better route might be to sit down together and talk through the whole thing. Explain to him you think you know why he feels the way he does, and that it\u2019s understandable. Then, ask him if there\u2019s a reasonable amount you two could have in the bank that would help him stop worrying. Discuss it, agree on an amount and then agree to cut the cards up and close the accounts when you reach that figure. Remind him, too, you\u2019d still have your debit cards in hand in the event of an emergency. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Above all, Ramona, make sure you work\u00a0<i>together<\/i>. Be patient and understanding. If he has recognized the wisdom of getting rid of debt and taking control of your finances, he\u2019s moving in the right direction!\u00a0<\/p>\n<p data-dcy-id=\"0.14207168981085028\">\u2014 Dave\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Read the full article <a href=\"https:\/\/www.savingadvice.com\/articles\/2023\/11\/28\/10121022_dave-says-be-gentle-hes-moving-in-the-right-direction.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">here<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Dear Dave,\u00a0 We\u2019re following your Baby Steps plan, and we\u2019ve paid off all our credit cards. But when I talked to my husband the other day about cutting up the cards and closing the accounts, he said he would rather keep the accounts open, and the cards locked away in a drawer for use as<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":37468,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[54],"tags":[32],"class_list":{"0":"post-37467","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-savings","8":"tag-featured"},"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v20.12 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Dave Says: Be Gentle, He\u2019s Moving in the Right Direction | iSafeSpend<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Dear Dave,\u00a0 We\u2019re following your Baby Steps plan, and we\u2019ve paid off all our credit cards. 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